When people ask who inspire you, you instantly think of your mother, or a very strong public female, such as Mother Teresa, but for me, (even though I do admire my mother greatly), one of the most inspiring females that I have the pleasure of knowing, is my sister-in-law, Gemma.
Everyone has struggles in their life journey, however, Gemma is the person who constantly seemed to have been handed the shortest straw for every obstacle but still seems to handle these struggles with such grace and patience. I won't delve into them all, however, the biggest hurdle which life threw at her was at 12.40am on the 4th of November in 2014 when she gave birth to her beautiful baby boy, Oscar who was born sleeping. This pivotal moment in her life, not only crumbled her to the core, but also shaped her to be the person she is today. She has learnt to cry silently, she has learnt to smile through her sadness, she has learnt to keep walking when all she felt was numbness, she has learnt the true meaning of friendship and she has learnt losing a child can be one of the most loneliest journey a parent embarks on.
Gemma did not want another parent to feel the way she did, she did not want them to feel the pain and confusion that she did. She wanted to give parents the answers that she couldn't find. She wanted to support and help others and she didn't want anyone else to feel as lonely as she did.
I sat down on the sofa with her and we discussed the first stages after losing her beautiful baby boy. She shares her emotions, how she coped, how she kept Oscar's memory alive and how the people around her supported her.
Gemma has endured so much in such a short period and losing her precious Oscar has shaped her to be the woman she is today. Oscar is at the forefront of her thoughts, every single second of the day and she invests a lot of time, emotion and effort into her charity, Oscar's Wish Foundation to keep his memory alive.
Because of her strength, dedication to Oscar's Wish Foundation and helping strangers through their own devastating loss, she is one of the most inspiring women I know.